Cohabitation skills Communication styles Part 1

Chapter Three: Cohabitation
Part 3: Communication Styles (Part 1)

In the third part of the chapter on cohabitation, we will discuss the types of communication styles between men and women in married life.

Husbands and wives usually choose one of the types of communication styles in relation to each other and manage their lives and communicate with each other based on it.

Win-lose communication style:

The first of the communication styles is the win-lose style. In this style, often one person wins. In a way that his needs are met. One person is calm and the other person is a person who provides services. In fact, he is a person whose needs are not taken into account and even he is no longer aware of his interests. In fact, he has formed all his thoughts in such a way that he always meets all the needs and requests of the other person in the best way.

Loss communication style:

The second of the couple’s communication styles is the losing style. In this style, both sides always feel like losers. In fact, they always try to reduce each other in life. They think that life is a battlefield where they have to shoot stronger and more deadly arrows at each other. In this style of communication, couples usually take advantage of each other and usually try to hinder each other.

For example, if a man does not welcome his wife’s family well, the woman will not welcome her husband’s family in retaliation. In fact, there will be a kind of mutual stubbornness and a conflict will arise between a man and a woman. In a loss-making communication style, communication is usually not long, and because they are constantly fighting, they definitely get tired at one time and place. These relationships usually do not last more than a few months to a few years and will eventually break up.

Win-win communication style:

Another communication style is win-win style. The only appearance of this style is very beautiful and attractive. But in fact, both people win the field because men and women give points to each other.

For example, a woman tells her husband that because yesterday I allowed you to travel with your friends, today you should give me the right to have fun with my friends. Or give me permission to do a certain job, and in fact here the woman of the family seeks privilege and a private freedom because of the privilege she has given to the man. This relationship may look beautiful, but inwardly we need to know that this relationship is rotten. This connection is subject to very serious damage. Because in this style, a competition is created in which the man tries not to give more points to his wife and vice versa. In this style of communication, men and women intend to receive one more point for each point.

Injuries caused by competition in communication networks:

In these three styles of communication that we have mentioned, there is a kind of competition, and whenever there is competition in marital relations, true peace of life will disappear. Children who grow up in this communicative atmosphere will suffer serious harms and deficiencies in terms of emotional development and social development.

Best Couple Communication Style:

The fourth style is the peer style or collaboration style. In this case of communication styles, men and women are on the same team and do not actually face each other. They know they are in the same boat and they have to steer the two of them to a specific destination. The couple is actually together and striving for a goal. They will understand and understand each other and will be fully aware of each other’s pain and joy. As the saying goes, his happiness is my happiness and his unhappiness is my unhappiness. In this way, I can introduce grown children to society with the help of my wife.

Do not be deceived by the win-win relationship

We must be careful not to be deceived by the win-win relationship in the four styles we have mentioned. Because there are many couples who are even educated and have a high level of social understanding. But they fail to live together because of a win-win relationship. We must pay full attention to maintaining the appearance of the story and the appearance of our communication and not to distort our communication styles from within. In fact, when we are in a team, we will understand each other’s feelings well and eventually we will reach true love in our life together. I hope that all of you, together with your spouse, steer your life boat towards a goal and form a team together.

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