Cohabitation skills | Communication channels

Chapter Three: Cohabitation
Part One: Communication Channels

After marriage and cohabitation, a man and a woman are at a crossroads of communication, or rather, there are four channels of communication through which they communicate with each other. Cognitive, emotional, sexual and economic communication channels are the four paths that men and women use during their life together.

Cognitive communication channel:

This channel is the belief, belief, thought and opinion of people who communicate with each other in this way. And during the day and night, couples spend a lot of time communicating with each other through this channel. For example, they talk about their child’s upbringing style through this channel. They talk about choosing a friend, a place, or about a lot of things like going out with friends and relatives. All of these include cognitive communication channels. Of course, it goes without saying that most marital disputes occur in the same communication channel.

Emotional communication channel:

We have another channel called the emotional communication channel. In this channel, there is love, affection, intimacy, friendship and caress. Kind glances, caresses that a man and a woman have together, and all of these things are placed in the channel of emotional communication.

Sexual communication channel:

There is another channel called the sex channel. Here, men and women meet their sexual needs and find peace and pleasure.

Economic communication channel:

The last channel that exists is called the economic communication channel. Couples in this way, consult daily expenses and income and talk about it .. how to rent and manage their house rent or water and electricity bills and children’s tuition and … and all cases of this Hands are recorded in this channel.

Recognition of communication channels:

In recognizing these communication channels, there are several points that we must consider:

Tip 1: Two-way communication channels

The first is that we need to know these channels. In recognizing them, it is very important to know that these communication channels are completely two-way. This means that a man should not expect a one-sided tic emotionally. If a woman also needs her husband to pay attention to her emotionally.

So we need to know that all these four channels that were mentioned are completely two-way. In the sexual channel, many women believe that it is the man who should start having sex. This is exactly where the problems arise. So we need to know that the channels and communication channels between men and women are completely two-way. This means that both parties can be starters.

Second point: communication channel disruption

The second and most important issue is that these four paths and four communication channels are completely different from each other. The channels are completely horizontal and do not interfere with each other. We may encounter problems in the cognitive communication channel at some point. This disorder manifests itself in such a way that, as the saying goes, we do not understand each other.

For example, a man has a special educational style for raising his child. But his wife does not have these beliefs and does not accompany him. Conversely, if a woman in the family wants to communicate with her man through a cognitive communication channel, she does not understand what he means. So either of these two causes a communication disorder in the cognitive channel. This is where we say they do not understand each other and will get into trouble.

Tip 3: Interference of communication channels with each other

It should be said that when a man and a woman have problems in the cognitive communication channel, the other paths and other channels are disrupted or even interrupted. So that the woman no longer sleeps with her husband and they distance themselves emotionally and express love and affection. We have even observed that in economic relations, they are significantly separated from each other, and in general, when they have a problem in one channel, they cut all communication with each other.

What can we do to solve the interference of communication channels?

Our suggestion is to make sure that these communication channels are completely separate from each other in the first step, and if an error or mistake occurs in any of these channels, we should make sure that the other channels are not involved in this disorder. But instead of involving the rest, strengthen the rest of the pathways and channels.

Keep calm at home

For example, if we have a problem with the cognitive communication channel, strengthen other pathways to bring peace back to the house and increase the energy level in the house, and then we can think and be able to open the closed channel, to see where the problem comes from. If we can not solve that problem, turn to experts.

In fact, we need to be aware that if there is a problem in a communication channel between me and my wife, we should not act in a way that we want to solve that problem first. Because our energy levels have dropped because of this disorder, and first of all, let’s strengthen other ways and channels.

Unfortunately, there are people who say that if my wife does not understand what I am saying, we will not be able to establish an emotional, sexual and economic channel with her. We have to say that with this thinking, the whole life is disrupted.

Pay attention to other communication channels:

There are two main solutions: First, if any problems occur to us on any channel, let us come and investigate and solve that problem and maintain the rest of the communication channels. Or in the second case, we confuse everything and do not realize in the future where the problem started. In this case, not even an expert realizes our main problem after several sessions, and even the expert may spend time in different communication channels of the couple to find out the main problem in the relevant channel after several sessions of consensus and consultation with the couple.

Disruption of the economic communication channel A common problem in the corona

I have to tell you that if there is a problem in one communication channel between you and your spouse, you have to maintain the other communication channels. Considering that we are currently suffering from coronary heart disease, the man of the family may be worried about economic problems. This makes it impossible for him to have a good sex with his wife. He can’t even caress her and he can’t even listen to his wife during the day.

In such a situation, you should be aware that you are only disturbed in the economic communication channel and have no problems in the sexual, emotional and cognitive channels. You should not spread your problem on all these channels and, God forbid, when you solve your economic problems, you will see that you have lost your spouse. By doing this, you have caused great problems in your life and you have seen many other things lost.

Conclusion :

So we have to concentrate that if we have a disorder or problem somewhere, we should keep the problem in its place and strengthen other means of communication. Let’s try to solve that problem with more peace and more energy. Even if we are not able to solve the problem, we should use others and experts in this matter so that, God willing, we can solve this problem as well.

I hope all your communication channels are green and full of flowers. Be happy and God bless.