Cohabitation skills | Communication styles | Part II

Chapter Three: Cohabitation
Part 3: Communication Styles (Part 2)

In the following discussion of communication styles between husband and wife, we want to tell you how to know and touch communication more deeply. How to check your relationship with your spouse, children, friends and others from time to time, determine its type and take the necessary care.

The danger of everyday life in communication styles

We are in different relationships in the different roles we have, known as the role of spouse, the role of co-worker, the role of parent, the role of child, and various other roles. But these connections have become so commonplace that we do not pay much attention to them. We do not focus on checking whether our communication method is the right one.

Are the communication styles we have and the result we want to achieve correct or not? We almost come to our senses when we encounter a serious problem or dilemma and consider these questions with ourselves.

For example, why does my child claim credit? Or why does my friend have these strange expectations? Or do we find ourselves wondering where my relationship with my wife has been that we have now encountered this big problem? And all this is due to the daily routine and normalization of communication.

The first part of a relationship:

In discussing communication styles, we must address the issue that communication consists of three components. The first and most important component is the communication transmitter. If we talk to someone, we become the sender and the main center of communication. We need to know that the first and most important part of a relationship is starting with it and the sender. This is while we start a communication, but we have certain expectations from the recipient of the communication. But as the initiator of a communication and its sender, we have not followed a series of rhetoric.

The second part of a relationship:

In communication styles, the second part is a message communication. The same message that is exchanged in a relationship. A series of messages are in the form of voice and some of them are in the form of non-verbal gaze and communication. The recipient who receives this message is the third component of this relationship.

Only when the connection between these three components is effective will we see the best kind of connection. In such a way that the sender of the communication message and the receiver are in the same atmosphere and in the same phase.

The first step is to send an effective communication message

For example, a mother wants to use a communication method to give her child an educational message and say that smoking is not a good thing at all. This connection should start when I, as a sender, am mentally prepared. If I am not busy, I do not have stress and I have a good mood in general. But usually parents want to send an educational message to their children while they are busy.

What should the communication message look like?

In the second step, we must prepare the communication message in such a way that it has a good introduction and atmosphere. And in the last step, the recipient of the message, who is our child, is also in a good condition. That is, if my child is tired for any reason or is not in a good mood, I should not present my educational message and present it in another situation, so that I first change my child’s position and then say that.

Chinese introduction to conveying a communication message

When it comes to life skills, we need to know that to give a simple word, we can very well have a good Chinese introduction. We can present it beautifully, and sometimes we have to present our communication message in a very concise way and in the shortest sentences. For example, when I want to convey a message to a teenager, I have to pay attention to a few points: First, it should be concise. Second, it is very conceptual. And third, my teen has the prerequisites for this.

I also need to know that the communication message must be perfectly tangible and understandable. Sometimes the Chinese introduction may be much more relevant than the main content. Most important of all is when we want to convey this educational message to our teen. We must be careful whether our receiver is in the mood to accept and hear the story or not.

Types of communication

Now we want to talk about the types of communication in the topic of cohabitation skills, which has three main parts.

Part One: Bad Communication

Bad communication occurs when there is a mismatch between the sender of the communication message and the recipient, for example, when the sender conveys his beautiful message but the recipient does not receive it.

Part II: Good communication

Good communication occurs when there is coordination between the sender and receiver of the message. In a way that the sender conveys his communication message beautifully and the recipient will receive that content. We will consider this relationship a good relationship.

Part Three: Effective Communication

But the third part, or effective communication, will occur when our communication is established for a long time. This will be in a way that my communication message has had a good effect on the recipient. We need to know that in order to make our communication more effective, we need to acquire life skills and turn our knowledge into a communication skill, and to have a good skill, we just need to practice.

I hope that all of you can communicate effectively with each other and achieve the desired results as you wish.

Good luck and God bless